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Sermon The Wonder of Loving A Friend
Text: John 13:34-35
34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”


Introduction - Friendship is an important part of our personal wellbeing, both being a friend and having a friend. Giving and receiving is so vital. There are those who are saying that every area of personal interaction is being hurt by the computer age. To understand this as members of the family of God we must have true friends even to the deepest of levels. How do we do this? It begins with, concern. How is that acted upon in our life’s? What does concern mean? “To relate to; be connected with; to care enough to engage.” How can we experience this type of concern for others?

I.Spiritual Communication
Philippians 2:3-5
   3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,

A.Seek and find the Mind of Christ concerning the one you are concerned over
B.Pray that you can help others even on a Spiritual level


II.Sympathetic Cooperation
Ephesians 4: 32 
   32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
A.“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care” Teddy R.
B.Honesty always, rudeness and crucifying the wounded never.
C.Balance, truth sets us free and loves makes it palatable

III.Strong Companionship
Galatians 6:2 
   2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

A.Actually be concerned enough to help carry another’s load.
B.“to accomplish, fulfill, supply another’s needs”
C.That is what is meant by “fulfilling the law of Christ”
D.To have the mercy of God We must be merciful!! Actually be merciful! Matthew 5:7 Blessed are the merciful,
  For they shall obtain mercy.
E.Not just show concern, be concerned!


Conclusion – The best friend we could ever have is Jesus! JOHN 15:14 14 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.  
  He can help us be people of concern! 

The Wonder of Loving a Friend
January 7, 2018
   The Wonder of Loving a Friend pt. 2 – Commitment 
Text: John 13:34-35
 34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”


Introduction:
 There are a couple of quotes about being or having a friend that I enjoy;
Erma Bombeck “a friend will not go on a diet when you are going through a fat phase”
Ben Franklin – “be slow in making friends, even slower in changing them”
Last week began our look at being a Godly friend to someone and it begins with being concerned.

In review, to be concerned one becomes a person that does three things toward another.
Concern - “to relate, be connected with, to care enough to engage “ 
So friendship begins with relationship, grows into thoughtfulness, and continues into involvement.
  Concern then must progress to Commitment. 
Commitment –“dedicated to an engagement or obligation that restricts the freedom of action”
Whoa!!!! Pastor Mark are you saying that to grow beyond concern will cause one personal life adjustment,
Maybe even sacrifice? Yes and it is GREAT! 
Let us look at scripture to show how commitment to our friends manifests itself.

I.A Friend Celebrates the Wonderful Parts of Living
Proverbs 17:17 
   17 A friend loves at all times,
And a brother is born for adversity.

A.Celebrating God’s goodness is so much better with a friend

B.Romans 12:1 -2 
   12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

It is our responsibility as members of the body of Christ to worship with each other.

C.Our obligation gives true purpose yet keeps clear focus.

II.A friend Gives Needed Support in Times of Adversary
Proverbs 17:17 
   17 A friend loves at all times,
And a brother is born for adversity.

A.Being a Godly friend even moves us to family interaction.

B.When the way becomes hard support can be found.

C.Proverbs 18:24
   24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

 Not a fair weathered friend but a committed one.

D.This may cost one time even money but it is worth it!!

Conclusion: Is it time to be a friend?!

January 14, 2018
The Wonder of Loving a Friend
part two
Please scroll down for 
The Wonder of Loving a Friend
 parts two, three, and four
The wonder of loving a friend part three

Text: John 13:34-35
 34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Introduction: 
 Friend – a person one knows and has a bond of caring excluding family and sexual ties

    Concern – to relate, connect with, to care enough to engage

  Commitment – dedicated to an engagement or obligation to the point of restricting one’s personal freedom

Confidentiality – entrusting with private or restricted information, other than your own.

Today we will see the difference between a causal friend and a true friend, along with the importance of confidentiality.

“Friendship is born that moment when one person says to another, 
What! You Too! I thought I was the Only one” C S Lewis

“I do not need a friend who changes when I change, nods when I nod, my shadow already does that quite well” Quote


I.Life Changes Can Alter a Friends life, How we React is Vital
1 Samuel 17:51 
51 Therefore David ran and stood over the Philistine, took his sword and drew it out of its sheath and killed him, and cut off his head with it.
And when the Philistines saw that their champion was dead, they fled.

  1 Samuel 18:7
7 So the women sang as they danced, and said:
“Saul has slain his thousands,
And David his ten thousands.”

A.Unexpected success or failures are hard to navigate
B.Sometimes confusing to the point of ending, but not always


II.True Friendship can cause Strain upon the Circle of one’s Life
1 Samuel 19:15-18
15 Then Saul sent the messengers back to see David, saying, “Bring him up to me in the bed, that I may kill him.” 16 And when the messengers had come in, there was the image in the bed, with a cover of goats’ hair for his head. 17 Then Saul said to Michal, “Why have you deceived me like this, and sent my enemy away, so that he has escaped?”
And Michal answered Saul, “He said to me, ‘Let me go! Why should I kill you?’”
18 So David fled and escaped, and went to Samuel at Ramah, and told him all that Saul had done to him. And he and Samuel went and stayed in Naioth.

A.Others may not understand Gods will as clearly as those in the friendship

B.Selfishness can always destroy any relationship


III.Confidentiality may be the one thing that allows a person to survive
1 Samuel 20:24
24 Then David hid in the field. And when the New Moon had come, the king sat down to eat the feast. 

 1 Samuel 20:30-31 
30 Then Saul’s anger was aroused against Jonathan, and he said to him, “You son of a perverse, rebellious woman! Do I not know that you have chosen the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the shame of your mother’s nakedness? 31 For as long as the son of Jesse lives on the earth, you shall not be established, nor your kingdom. Now therefore, send and bring him to me, for he shall surely die.”

1 Samuel 20:41 -42
41 As soon as the lad had gone, David arose from a place toward the south, fell on his face to the ground, and bowed down three times. And they kissed one another; and they wept together, but David more so. 42 Then Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, since we have both sworn in the name of the Lord, saying, ‘May the Lord be between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants, forever.’” So he arose and departed, and Jonathan went into the city. Help is the only thing that allows one to make it sometimes, David’s wife and Jonathan went into the city.

A.Help is the only thing that allows one to make it sometimes, David’s wife and Jonathan
B.One can only be so blessed to have friends that truly care for one’s person and character


Conclusion – Friendship, Yes we can!!!!!

The Wonder of Loving a Friend
part three
January 21,2018
The Wonder of Loving A friend part four 
 Consistency 
Text: John 13:34 -35
 34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Introduction – Friend – a person one knows and has a bond of caring excluding family and sexual ties

  Concern – to relate, connect with, to care enough to engage

Commitment – dedicated to an engagement or obligation to the point of restricting one’s personal freedom

Confidentiality – entrusting with private or restricted information, other than your own.

Consistency – “acting or done in the same way over time, especially to be fair and accurate”

Before we begin our study today let us remind ourselves that our source for all good never changes,
Hebrews 13:8 / Psalm 89:34, proves this fact to be true. We cannot be God but we can embrace His character with Devine assistance to be consistent ourselves, especially as it pertains to being a friend.

Hebrews 13:8 
8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
Psalm 89:34
34 My covenant I will not break,
Nor alter the word that has gone out of My lips.

I.We Need Each Other In Hard Times
Ecclesiastes 4:10
 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.

A.One is a lonely place to be, it should be avoided.
B.It is always better to have someone else at the other end of the saw!

II.We Need Each Other For Personal Growth
Proverbs 27:17 
17 As iron sharpens iron,
So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

A.We sharpen / improve everything about our friend.
B.Their thinking, spiritual growth, stress, decision making etc.
C.Our friends are doing the same to us
D.Be Consistent!!!!!

III.We May Need to Be there When All Else Fails
John 15:13 
13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.

A.This is a radical statement but the concept is that we become so invested in a friend that their life becomes so valuable to us!! 
B.I will take the whipping!!
C.J. O. Y. Jesus first, others second, you last!

Conclusion – Can we become friends?

The Wonder of 
Loving a Friend
part four
January 28, 2018